Want power? Power is internal.
If you are looking for your power in the external world or outside yourself you will never find it. In fact, I guarantee that any external power you think you’ve got will only be an illusion. External power is based on control, manipulation and acting or pretending. Those characteristics are a sign of powerlessness, insecurity, ego, fakery. In fact, aren’t we all trying to free ourselves from such draining, low-value relationships?
Your internal world is the seat of your power. It is your consciousness, your mind, your ability to observe, your ability to effectively adjust to your reality, your ability to balance your emotions, understand others, shift focus, re-frame your mind. Your mind, heart and soul are how you face others, dissolve conflict, transmute energy, create a new you. How many people have found that?
It is my observation that the most powerful women in the world are balanced, they possess an inner strength, they are self-aware, wise, emotionally stable, conscious, empathetic, fearless, undaunted, sovereign, healed. None of these characteristics can be obtained from external sources, they are a sign that she has spent a lifetime working on her inner self. Women who fake or act out these characteristics are always tested, and they often fail right away to convince others that they are leaders, self possessed, unfuckwithable.
Ask any spiritual master- power is within. Ask any martial arts practitioner, strength is within. Ask any positive or effective world leader, power is a state of being.
My advice to all women is to make inner growth, healing and self-awareness a top priority in your lives. Everything else will fall into place easily once you have mastered yourself. You are the only problem in your life, and changing and growing yourself is the ultimate solution. For that you need a willingness to be alone, and an eagerness to study yourself.. The most painful part of this journey is facing your shadow, your suppressed memories, emotions, and aspects of the self we have found unacceptable.
It is a painful process, and some people are programmed to run away from pain. However, facing your darkest fears and emotions is the ultimate power. Imagine how fearless you feel once you have faced the unacceptable. After you accept and release, there is nothing more to fear about life nor others. Now you have power.
Don’t fool yourself into thinking that power can be obtained by flirting, seducing, attracting, strategizing, outmaneuvering somebody. That is just manipulation which does not work on emotionally intelligent people. It is fleeting and eventually you will lose your grip because it is just an illusion. In fact, if they too are base and underdeveloped, they can only do the same to you. And this is something that all relationships based on low to no consciousness act out via control, chasing, manipulation, complaining, lack or struggle. It’s all drama, and there is no value whatsoever in participation if you are truly as conscious as you think you are.
The second advice I have for you is to work on yourself all alone. I am not saying that if you have ,a psychological problem you shouldn’t see a professional. I am saying that your internal world can only be faced alone, and developed all by yourself. If you have issues, disorders, and illnesses by all means get external help. But, to find your inner power, you have to do the work all by yourself.
Third, here is advice that I tell everyone who is trying to meditate or go within. Resist the temptation to read or study meditation. Why? In order to truly get into the meditative state, you must drop your intellect and you must silence your mind. Studying uses your intellect, and if you are trying to emulate what some spiritual master has achieved in his own head, you will not be able to do the same in your mind. Your mind and your path is unique to you. Studying meditation or any subjects like your soul, will only cause your mind to continue working, questioning, analyzing, and you will not be able to shut it off. What’s worse you might distract yourself with the intellectual pursuit which will force you to focus on yourself from an external vantage point.
You can only do this work alone, and if you are willing to go within. Some of you will surely find this unbearable. Maybe the inner world is empty, starving, painful. Face that, observe your own hunger and your own pain. Sit with it. This could take days, months, years. The more you can get comfortable with it, the less of a grip it has over your life. Eventually it will disappear because you now are not destroyed by it.
When your own shadow and darkness no longer have a grip on you, nobody else in your external world will have any power over you whatsoever. I now laugh at how desperately people try to influence, control, seduce or coerce me. My ability to remain unaffected pisses off a lot of egos. No one can touch me. More importantly, I understand that in my composure and absolute stillness, I can allow their attacks to pass by me like Neo bent down to allow bullets to pass and fall to the ground. Other people have no power over you, and they actually can’t do anything to you. You can only perceive their dramas from a place of fear and give them power if you choose.
Your life is entirely your story. Living externally allows others to control your perception of yourself, place limitations on how far you can go, and to distract you from your true purpose. It allows people to feed on your energy in which case you will never truly be free. Imagine if you are utterly unaffected by other people’s dramas, attacks, underhandedness, betrayals, gossip, evil eye, and whatever they try to fling at you and their words have absolutely no effect on you. They fall down to the ground like the bullets aimed at Neo. As you stare back at their flailing attempts and witness their stupidity, imagine how the trolls feel as they expose themselves to others while they are trying to hurt you. Anyone would feel utterly powerless.
My superpower is that I never have to lift a finger to retaliate, or do anything to others. I don’t believe in revenge, I don’t believe in fighting low consciousness by stooping to its level, and I don’t believe in messing with anyone’s free will. In fact I allow their attacks, knowing well that whatever is aimed at me will not reach me. I do believe that in life you get what you are, and those negative words, fear, and manipulation people aim at others, always come back to them. They are the originators of those energies, therefore the universal magnet will always bring them face to face with whatever they tried to inflict onto someone else. You be still.
Whether you want to succeed at work or in your personal life, it all depends on understanding the true source of your power and being in charge of your own outcomes. Invest more in your inner world, and worry less on what is happening on the outside. The outer dramas are just a reflection of whatever war you were fighting within yourself previously.
The world is changing, and I believe that in this new world an entirely new set of skills will be needed. Empathy, some people have it while others fake it. It will become obvious who the fakers are. Self-mastery, composure, inner balance, true wisdom, resonance will allow us all to operate at a higher level of consciousness. There will be a separation, an evolution of those who will carry humanity forward. Allow what is not for you to fall behind.
Go within and develop a strong relationship with yourself. Trust me, you will become totally unfuckwithable.
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