How to Win a Mind Game?

How to win a mind game? Before I tell you how to win, I want to point out that people who play mind games are toxic. If someone withholds their attention and is making you feel like you need to jump through hoops to win them over, they are showing you a big red flag. I am going to be painfully blunt here, you’re f*cking stupid to play their game. In fact, willingness to play the game shows that you are on an equally low level of emotional intelligence, and that you probably won’t be able to take responsibility for drawing yourself into the game. Think twice before you engage with some who is clearly showing you their mind.

A mind game is just emotional manipulation. They may be sick, but if you are willing to be emotionally manipulated just to get close, you are the same. Like attracts like. Sorry if I offended anyone, but I want to drive this point clear.

1. So, how do you win? The simple answer is don’t play. By refusing to play, you are maintaining all the power. Remain disengaged, and you remain 100% in control of yourself. Give them a tiny opportunity to talk to you, and you are giving them an opportunity to tighten the noose, up the ante, impose a new threat, and find a new angle to manipulate your emotions. Without your participation, the mind gamer remains impotent. They can’t win without your participation. You are letting them play all by themselves, which shows that even the most sinister attempts to get you attention still leave them alone.
2. Allow them to corner themselves into a situation they cannot back out of. Mind gamers are weak and powerless people They play games to feed their egos, feed their insecurities and it all depends on getting your attention. By all means, if you think a relationship with a mind gamer is for you, jump right in. Pretty soon you will lose your mind. But, when you make no moves at all, they keep making new moves just to provoke you. While they are moving, they are walking themselves into a labyrinth they created for you to get lost in, and pretty soon they will fall into the trap they set up for you. All you have to do to win a mind game is absolutely nothing.

An example would be a guy who suddenly stops communication. Rather than get upset, understand that this is a tactic to get you to engage harder. He takes a step back in order to get you to take two steps forward. He becomes cold, so that you would pursue him. The more you pursue, the more you invest in your own mental and emotional imbalance. Now that you are invested and are still not getting a return on your emotional investment, you feel like you are going crazy. Hahaha, the sinister fool knows his strategy is working. And then, in a last ditch effort because at this point you have nothing to lose, you make an overt display of emotion, you chase, you cry, you throw yourself at him, meanwhile everything you say and do is feeding his ego. You willingly fall into his trap, because the only way for you to continue this situation is for you to submit to his sick ego.

But a woman who is emotionally intelligent, can spot a sicko a mile away. The minute he pulls back, she closes the door. Mind gamers are starving for attention, so they will continue to increase your level of discomfort just to provoke you. They may not realize that your door is sealed shut, because they are so obsessed with themselves and their own labyrinth.

3. When you allow the mind gamer to play themselves, you are allowing them to show you who they truly are. If you are objectively observing them, your realization of how sick they truly are will be enough for you to not reopen that door. Mind gamers are seeking toxic attention, they want to win at all cost. They don’t want to earn your respect, your trust, your friendship, instead they want to win. Because their egos are so hungry, it may take them a long time to realize that they lost you. The thought is unacceptable, surely you’d be desperate for them that you will start to chase soon. Most are so wrapped up in their own delusions, they will not accept the reality that they lost any chance to be with you. So, don’t be surprised if they create chaos, drama and declare war as soon as they realize they cannot touch you. When they look to see who is giving them attention, who is chasing them, who is yearning for them, there is no one.

Mind gamers are so empty they literally have to push people’s emotional buttons to elicit a response, and then they measure their own worth by how you express your emotions for them, or how hard you play to get them. Make sure that absolutely no action is taken on your part. You don’t budge. Put on your headphones and start dancing to drown out the noise as they start accusing you of whatever they can think of.

4. The key to letting any toxic person go is in you not needing them. Remember, they are scheming to get your attention, and the only way they can get it is if you actually need them. And some women really do need the toxic people in their lives.

Healthy women do need people, we just don’t need the unhealthy ones. Of course we all need nourishment and healthy food, but when a mind gamer or someone who is being passive aggressive waves some candy in front of our faces we don’t jump up and try to catch it. When they wave a new scheme, a new expression of fake love, a new opportunity for you to participate, the door is already closed. We are not hungry for junk food, or for junk people, so no response from us. That leaves the mind gamer alone with his own emptiness. Once again they have destroyed another relationship. But this is all good for you, because you managed to keep your mind clean.

Mind gamers, manipulators and passive aggressives habitually sabotage their own relationships. They subconsciously already know that people will leave them, there is already plenty of evidence of that. So in order to prove that you are unreliable, untrustworthy, and also likely to leave, they play games in order to fulfill their own prophecy. They never realize that it is they who are imbalanced, unreliable and cannot even trust themselves.

When you lose a manipulator from your life, you have lost nothing at all. You may have lost some rotten fruit, a toxic person, a con, but you did not lose a real friend.

The only goal of the mind gamer is to get you to play. They love to watch you dance to their tune. So the simple act of engaging is enough for the mind gamer to win. Any time somebody tries to draw you into a mind game, or is trying to engage via passive aggression, it is a trap. I am warning you not to take a step forward because you will step on a grenade they laid out for you. Back away, and be grateful they showed you on time who they really are. You just saved your own life.

S